Saturday, September 15, 2012

Coming Home

Location: Fredericksburg, VA, USA
Thank you for everything, dear friends--for the prayers, the letters, and the support you've shown to to me and my family. Kindly continue to pray for those who remain.

I remember an Army classmate of mine at the Command and General Staff College calling Afghanistan "the forgotten war".  That was six years ago.  Today, even more so--it is the war we seem to desperately want to just go away.  But that is not the way of war.  You cannot simply walk off the battlefield when you get tired and frustrated.

With respect to the care packages (for which I shamelessly groveled), there are just too many to thank.  The boxes of shampoo, magazines, snacks and coffee were distributed liberally to many thankful warriors.  Still, a special shout-out is due to the patriotic Frontier Girls Clubs across the country ... the cards and packages were incredible, and the pictures were heartwarming and much admired!  You have more than lived up to your creed:
Patriotism is a character trait we take very seriously in Frontier Girls.  All meetings begin with a formal flag ceremony and girls are taught a proper respect for both flag and country.  We are also a strong supporter of our military personnel and have made optional programs available to our troops who want to go Above and Beyond.
Many thanks also to Rusty Dennen and Suzanne Carr at the Free-Lance Star for making this homecoming exciting and memorable, with this video (below) and the article in today's local paper, as well as our wonderful friend Kathy who tipped them off, and Riverbend High School Principal Dr. Troy Wright for helping make it happen.

Here's the pull quote from Rusty's article:
Gaille had both parents laughing with this observation: "With Dad gone, he's basically like the fun parent. So, mom had to do her best to be both educational and the fun parent."
Richelyn then noted: "What did we do? I took you to IHOP all the time and to your favorite restaurant."
Later in the car:
Mrs. Jailer:  "You said I wasn't fun!"
Jailerette:  "No I didn't!"
Jailer:  "You kinda did."
Jailerette:  "Yeah, I kinda did."

Yours sincerely in Christ,
Jailer (the "fun parent")

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Christian View on Birth Control: "Sex is for Reproduction"?

Location: Bagram Airfield, Bagram, Afghanistan
To an unexpected degree, many have sought to make this political season one about increasing access to birth control ... to which Americans should be excused for responding:  "Huh?"

Birth control is easier to obtain in America than beer, cigarettes ... or a Big Gulp in New York City.  The forces arrayed in opposition to birth control were routed decades ago.  The debate we're having now is about how to root out those bitter remnants of opposition still hiding in caves and bring them into submission.

When I was in the 10th grade, I was subjected to the indoctrination of a California sex education class.  I had only just begun my trek into the world of Christianity, so I was experiencing weekly sermons to compete with the daily public school lectures.  Thus was I caught unprepared for challenge laid down against my emerging faith by the redoubtable Ms. Bergstrom, who by way of introduction confidently strode to the blackboard and, in large letters, scrawled as follows:
Christian view:  sex is for reproduction
Of course, my class full of hormonal adolescents chuckled at this, as was the teacher's intent.  As support for her assertion, Ms. Bergstrom quoted from Genesis 38:9 (King James Version, which is always a crowd-pleaser when seeking to portray Christianity as arcane foolishness):
And Onan knew that the seed should not be his; and it came to pass, when he went in unto his brother's wife, that he spilled it on the ground, lest that he should give seed to his brother.
The message was clear, though Ms. Bergstrom helpfully expounded upon it lest it be missed.  The angry God of the Bible will kill you if you use "family planning".

This presented quite a conundrum for Young Jailer, having had little moral or Scriptural foundation to ready me for that moment.  I kept my mouth shut and let the challenge pass.  Yet something about all this seemed fishy.  I suspected the Gospel According to Ms. Bergstrom might contain some interpretive errors.

Sure enough, further study demonstrated that Onan's sin went beyond practicing coitus interruptus, to his refusal to honor and care for his deceased brother's wife, according to both compassion and tradition within that culture. He did this to protect his own family inheritance and legacy.  In other words, he used his dead brother's wife for sex, but denied her children--a selfish, cruel and disobedient act.

The messages of Scripture about sex are, of course, far more complex than Ms. Bergstrom's four-word exposition.  Sex is good (as Song of Songs makes clear), intended by God to be enjoyed freely--within a committed, lifelong relationship between a man and a woman.  In other words, within the context of marriage.  Oh, and I suppose I must now be specific--heterosexual marriage.

Now, because we believe this, Protestants have not drawn the line at birth control, and there is good reason to say that we ought to have freedom on this matter.  After all, is there a clear command for married couples to reject birth control measures?  And yet, we must wonder if we have taken this freedom too far, and are thus properly disdained by Catholics--and mocked by Monty Python--for our sexual nonchalance and indifference to the gift of children:

After all, while God's first recorded command to Adam and Eve was to "Be fruitful and multiply ...", today we have so segregated sex from childbearing, that we celebrate sexual activity and freedom from children almost as inalienable rights.  We think little of using medical assistance to delay childbearing so that we can enjoy carefree younger years.  Later we use different medical assistance to (we hope) induce childbearing because we have waited so long.  Because we no longer need them to care for us in our dotage, thanks to government programs, children are treated as a commodity to be tolerated in our time and on our terms, when we're done frolicking and self-actualizing.  Otherwise, they are a failure of family planning.  Fortunately for us, abortion is (mostly) safe, legal, and affordable.

Hooray for us.  This counts as "progress" in the Land of the Self-Absorbed.